Who should pursue in dating?
This question of who should pursue comes up in dating all the time. The theory is now that women are free to pursue other things they want like jobs and education, can she now be free to pursue a man. My response to the question is here. Its an excerpt from my up coming book Men Chase, Women Choose: The Neuroscience of Meeting, Dating, Losing Your Mind, and Finding True Love.
If we distill a male and a female to an elemental basis of one cell, we would have the egg and a sperm. The sperm is the only cell in the human body that’s mobile. The egg doesn’t have to worry about finding a sperm. She knows that all she has to do is sit tight, relax, and any second, thousands of eager sperm will be in the race of their life to find her. These sea-men are especially built for this competition. They have been working out, in the testes, in a type of “sperm bootcamp,” building stamina in the form of mitochondria for endurance to withstand the harsh environment in which the “female” resides. They have formed a specialized motility structure—the tail. They also come in force, wearing acidic helmets to break through the female barrier. It’s a tough job, but they were born for this. Just like the egg, the female in her entirety doesn’t have to worry if a male is coming. It’s not a question of “if” but “when.” I can confidently guarantee that you’ll never see an egg putting on a short skirt or low-cut blouse, hanging out in the ovaries or running around the town’s fallopian tubes trying to pick up random sperm. No, the egg knows she just needs to sit there and make her selections from millions of excited little soldiers heading her way. The natural law of relationships is that the gender with the greater energetic investment in reproduction will be more discriminating when it comes to sex. Then the one with the least amount of energetic investment in reproduction will compete for access to the higher-investing individual. In most cases this means that males chase and females choose. Or in our case men chase and women choose. But, you already knew I was going to say that.
Stay tuned as the release date gets closer. I’ll be having lots of events and activities coming up soon. It will be an exciting time.